What After 12th?

I often meet people who complain that their parents do not understand them.  I get it, it is difficult to make them understand a few things that are super chill for us. I guess that is called the generation gap.  I am fortunate enough to have parents who support me even if they do no understand what is up with my life.

Young minds are massively talented, but sometimes their progress is hindered. There is a lot of stress in this world and no matter how hard you try it is unavoidable. I have been there too, I know it.

When I was in 11^th standard I opted for Commerce Mathematics, but eventually I realized that I don’t fit with maths. Most of the people I knew then who were struggling with maths like I did had left maths. I wanted to quit, but still kept going. I totally failed in most of my maths exams in 11^th standard but I still kept going thinking that if I have to grow with commerce and have a good career in it I have to have maths.

When I was in 12^th standard, things were more perplexed. There was not a single day when I had not cried struggling with maths. I was working so hard, but the result had always been below average. I changed my coaching, my study group and everything, but still could not have good relation with maths. I wanted to quit, but kept going with the peer pressure and thinking consequences (which were told to me by people who were pro in maths).

I have successfully passed my board exams because of my hard work in the stream of Commerce maths. Now I am a lawyer. I chose BA.LLB after my 12^th boards. I neither carried forward commerce, nor maths after 12^th.

I have discovered myself so much after choosing this career. I have grown smarter in the parts I never knew existed in me. My voice doesn’t shake anymore, I don’t have any pressure or inferiority complex, moreover I know my strength. It all changed with my one decision after 12^th board.

If you are reading this, no matter what age you are in or what circumstances you are going through. Hold yourself rightly and tightly, this phase is difficult, but no other person should take the decision of your life except you. Do not choose a career that your peer group is taking. You will be contacted by your relatives, friends and even strangers on your result day and they all will have something to suggest you for your future. Think, re-think and talk to the elders, but when you take your decision make sure it is only yours.

Some days back someone very special have explained it to me, that if I had scored excellent in maths when I was in school, then I wouldn’t have discovered or appreciated the growth I see in me today. “Sometimes wrong choices bring us to right places”

I have learnt that somehow we all manage to work out with things in the future, so don’t panic or boast about your 12^th scores.  There are a lot of things waiting for you in future, so stay positve and keep going.

All the best!

Love

Raneeta

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